• EngineerGaming@feddit.nl
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    17 hours ago

    I was told that a lot of women do indeed start to want “it” after forming a deep emotional connection with somebody. Yet to experience that. Most men are just horny at nobody in particular tho

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      15 hours ago

      Women are very capable of being horny for horny’s sake.

      Women generally have to be much more selective for safety. The stats on sexual assault in US would astound anyone. Given how likely it is for a girl to be SA’d, or know someone who has, its no wonder they don’t openly express desire as much. Guys don’t have to worry about what happens if they change their mind at any poiny. At least not even close to the same degree.

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        15 hours ago

        Yeah, very fair points. Just that lacking this desire entirely is very consistent with my experience, so I still prefer to assume most women only “unlock” it under said conditions.

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        14 hours ago

        I think strip clubs are the counterpoint to “both sexes are equally horny.”

        Yes, male strip clubs exist but the vast majority are for people to ogle naked women.

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          14 hours ago

          I don’t think the status quo is good evidence. We do studies because we know how messy life is. You could just as easily be proving my point as you think you’re proving yours.

          Why do strip clubs exist? Idk, but it could be because men are more comfortable being sexual. As there is less shame in going to a strip club than working for one.

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            13 hours ago

            You could just as easily be proving my point as you think you’re proving yours.

            How on Earth would the overwhelming majority of strip clubs featuring naked women be evidence that women are as horny as guys?

            But fine, remove the physical shame etc. Set your browser to incognito, google porn and let me know how long it takes before you find a site catering to women instead of guys.

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              12 hours ago

              Ya missed my point a bit. Maybe I wasn’t so clear. I’m not saying strip clubs prove women are more horny. I’m saying it is reaonsable to assume asymertic distribution of gender roles in strip clubs is influenced by our current culture more than biology. Given no actual evidence it is reasonable to see it either way.

              Saying “Just look!” is as good as “Common sense”. Its extremely culturally embeded and not necessarily reflective of any underlying truth.

              I’m saying you didn’t prove anything to me. I’m not saying whether anything is true or untrue at a global level.

              Woman may be more or less horny than men. In my sample they are more horny. Maybe I’m just getting older.

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                11 hours ago

                As the conversation is about people who exist in the world as it is, not theoretical women in an abstract land, it seems perfectly reasonable to include the current distribution as skewed by current culture.

                Did you mean to respond to a different thread where people were talking about biologically and removed culture conditions?

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                  11 hours ago

                  I get a little lost in the sauce when I get typing. I stand by most of what I said, but maybe some isn’t pertinent.

                  Let me try and be super clear. In my sample women are more horny than men. In yours it is the other way.

                  Giving examples of men being outwardly sexual doesn’t prove that they feel it more. Just because more businesses cater to men doesn’t mean they feel it more. You are giving very surface level and indirect proof and calling it evidence.

                  I’m not working in abstract land, just not your land I guess.

                  Edit: I checked, the argument is about your evidence being mid. That’s been my position from the start. I don’t even agree that men and women are equally horny, but I don’t think you disproved it with strip clubs.

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                    10 hours ago

                    Unsure where you’re getting my sample from.

                    I’m using actual things that exist rather than my own experience because I understand that my experiences are not universal and are inherently subjective. Making blanket statements based on anyone’s experience is nonsensical.

                    And businesses, like online porn catering to men are pretty decent proof that men are hornier, that’s how capitalism works. Where a desire exists, businesses will fill it. Unless women are drastically poorer (a little so but hardly enough to rationalize an entire industry all but not existing) then a lack of demand indicates… you guessed it, a lack of demand.